![]() Before my trip to the Southwest, I was in a dark frame of mind, one clouded by worry, irritation, and self-pity. (For an overview of research on self-control and depletion, see Roy Baumeister & John Tierney’s Willpower.) To be at my best, I really did need some time to relax. Having depleted myself through overwork, I felt like I just couldn’t cope anymore. If we face constant demands to stay on task, whether through work, dieting, or responding to the needs of others, we become depleted and find it difficult to engage in more self-control. And this really is a problem, because, at some level, self-control is a limited resource. Tasks and “shoulds.” I took my trip during a busy time at work when I was feeling overwhelmed and fatigued.(For more on introversion, see Susan Cain’s Quiet.) ![]() To prepare myself for this intense social interaction, I first needed to recharge my batteries with some solitude. But it was nothing personal I hadn’t even met them yet. Part of me felt guilty for not wanting to be around these people. Tired and out of sorts, I didn’t feel ready to spend several days in conversation-heavy contact with others. As an introvert, I need a lot of time by myself and tend to feel drained quickly by social interactions-especially with strangers. Taking a closer look, I can see that I was running from at least three things:
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